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In Charge

by Damilola Oguntunde

Good morning DPR. How was your week? Mine was pretty stressful to be candid, but hey… here I am, hanging out with you, and nothing beats the feeling of being a blessing. I always look forward to the “post” days of the week. I’d like to say here that if you have questions you wish to ask concerning whatever is blogged about on this site, please feel free to drop a comment to ask your question and rest assured I’ll answer your question to the best of my knowledge. So today we continue on the Character Series… But focus on the subject of Self Control in a post I tag “In charge?”. The fruit of the Spirit is Love, and right in there we have one very powerful dimension of Love known as Self Control. It’s amazing how God has highly esteemed this virtue in the Word. Life really admires people who call the bluff of others, it’s like no one cares to listen to you until you raise your voice and make sure it’s heard. So the need to be more assertive and aggressive is higher in a generation where the louder voice is perceived as the stronger voice. However it is imperative we know that in the Kingdom of God, Volume doesn’t always translate to Strength. In fact in the Word of God, the opposite seems true. The strength of a man isn’t in how big he is, how loud he is or how strong he is, it’s in how self controlled he is.

Prov 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

How funny? God is saying right here that he that has control over his emotions is actually better than an Alexander the Great who could single handedly defeat an army of soldiers. Self control is a very powerful virtue that if well developed promises a lot of rewards, both in this life and in the world to come. God’s process of growth for you WILL ALWAYS demand that you control yourself in some way or the other. It could be your appetite for food, sex, sleep, gist, or your tendency to vent your anger. Something you badly want to do will have to be literally bridled for you to grow in the things of God. Remember the fruit of the Spirit is inherent in our spiritual nature upon our conversion into the Faith, but must be developed consistently by our submission to and dependence on the Holy Spirit. The goal of the Holy Spirit isn’t just to indwell us, but to invade our lives with His virtues. A lack of self control will cost more than anyone can pay. Bible records how Esau sought forgiveness and blessings with tears after he indulged his appetite for mere food.

Hebrews 12:16 Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright. 17 For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears.

Fornication was redefined by Esau. Before I ‘read and understood this passage of scripture, I thought fornication was simply having sexual relationships before and outside marriage. However here, we see how Esau redefined the concept of fornication. We don’t know Esau for committing fornication with any woman, but we know him for being silly enough to sell an eternal value for a fleeting pleasure. So fornication isn’t just sexual, it has everything to do with lack of self control. Esau was called profane and a fornicator simply for choosing a meal over a birthright. Whenever we choose something less valuable over something far weightier and valuable, what that is called is fornication. Whenever one chooses the pleasure of sin for a moment rather than a far weightier and eternal glory, whenever one vents his/her anger and loses a relationship rather than speak softly and maintain a good ‘relationship, such a person is at risk of fornication. Remember strength is not in size, volume or force, true strength is in control. The word “spirit” sometimes in the old testament especially in Proverbs refers to the human emotion rather than the recreated human spirit… So here is what the Bible says about not being self controlled.

Prov 25: 28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

When a city was without walls in ancient times, what it simply meant was that the city had become vulnerable to attacks. The walls of a city represented the defence system of the city. In the same vein, the Bible is saying here that if someone has no control over his or her emotions, he /she becomes vulnerable to attacks from the enemy. The devil can oppress such a person with depression, anxieties, fear, suicidal thoughts and so on. You must guard your heart deliberately, it’s not a passive activity, it’s an active one. Jesus was famished and Bible acknowledged that he wasn’t just hungry, he was hungered… Trust me there’s a huge difference between being hungry and being hungered… Lol, but the point here is that even at his weakest point, Jesus was still strong enough to say NO to the enemy tempting him to turn stones to bread. He overcame where Adam and Esau had failed, and in us dwells the the DNA of Christ for as He is, so are we in this present world, so we can control our emotions as well. I think a more accurate name for it will be Spirit control and not self control, because in the real sense no one can control himself, but we can rely of the Holy Spirit to control our emotions, thoughts and imaginations, that they may glorify God at all times.

The next time you’re tempted to get angry, remember your wrath won’t work the righteousness of God and stay calm and in charge. More often than not, when we overcome the temptation to lose our control, there’s always a weight of glory to obtain at the end of the temptation. To be In charge means your emotions don’t dictate to you, you speak to your emotions which further burtresses the fact that you are a spirit, who has a soul and lives in a body. You’re not an emotion, you’re not defined by your libido, you’re not reactionary, you’re spirit controlled, influenced and powered.

Col 3:1 If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. 2 Set your AFFECTION on things above, not on things on the earth.

In our next post I’ll share a very powerful secret about how to effectively control our emotions, because it is possible. Until then be in charge, remain audaciously calm and in control of all your nerves. Have a great weekend.

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Toblek August 21, 2015 - 9:37 am

…awesome, would love to share with friends! Help create a link through Facebook and other media. God bless you, really good.

Ifeoluwa August 21, 2015 - 1:17 pm

A double like button is needed here seriously … this is an inspiring one. Thank you for being a blessing.

As mentioned in the comment above, it will be good if there are social media links here in order to share easily. God bless you sir.

Shanna January 20, 2017 - 12:14 am

Un grande Humberto!Se me puso la piel de gallina al escucharlo y eso que no soy tan fan de los Sisssonm.Hapta te diría que si no fuera por el bigote se parece a Homero.Muy buena onda la de Humbert con los mensajes. Una creatividad increible!Muy bueno el programa.

Solomon Olaoye August 21, 2015 - 6:26 pm

Whao! This must reach the whole world. If every man possesses self control, the word will be at peace.

Damilola August 22, 2015 - 9:58 am

Hmmmn, thanks a lot guys… I’ll look into that. Amen to the blessings.

Ariyo Ayobami August 22, 2015 - 11:17 am

…”strength is not in size, volume or force, true strength is in control”… Love never fails! #selah. God bless you sir…again and again


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