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The Law Of Kindness (2)

by Damilola Oguntunde

Good morning DPR, I believe the weekend went well? Still under the CHARACTER series, we started a sub series on KINDNESS on Friday, if you haven’t read that, I advise that you do so before going on with this one. So today, we continue with the sub series; The Law Of kindness (2). In the last post, we defined KINDNESS as the consistent positive disposition towards another human being in thoughts, words and actions, where we focused on the power of being consistently kind with respect to our positive actions towards others. Today, we are going to concentrate on the use of kind words. Many people do not know how far reaching either the consequences or the benefits of their words can be. A simple phrase was once responsible for starting a world war. As believers, we shouldn’t only seek to be kind in our actions and behaviour, but also in our thoughts and words especially. The first and only time “the law of kindness” as a phrase, was used in the bible was with respect to the tongue, that is our words. You don’t necessarily have to give someone so much material goods like Dorcas did before one knows if you’re kind or not. It starts with your words. There are some people we just like to be around, not because we know we’d get something from them, but because we know they make us feel very comfortable with their warmth and their words.

Proverbs 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is THE LAW OF KINDNESS.

Does your mouth operate the law of kindness? This is a very practical series we’re having here and a lot of self examination will be done. Our Christian faith is backed up by power and the character of Christ. If you’re a professing Christian, it shouldn’t just remain a tag or label you wear every once in a while you’re filling a form demanding what “religion” you belong to, the Christlikesness indeed ought to be laced into your words and ingrained into your actions. Do people leave your presence feeling lifted or sifted? I know it is he the father loves that he chastises, but let not all your words be full of sour and melancholic rhythm to the heart. We must first understand the principle of influence; If someone is not certain of your love, your rebuke will mean nothing to such a person. Rebuke is effective only in the context where love is ascertained. Kind words are the conveyer of loving thoughts, don’t tell me you love me and then keep speaking unkindly to me. Let’s take a look at God as our ultimate example… Moses met Him a stutter and left the savior of Israel, a friend of God and an anointed leader. God kept encouraging Joshua and telling him not to fear and to be of good courage. David encouraged himself in the Lord when no-one seemed to be interested in encouraging him. Jesus picked up the prostitute and spoke those librating words to her; “neither do i condemn you, go and sin no more”, Jesus looked at his disciples at some point and told them they were his friends, what a powerful inspiration that would have been to them! The whole bible is replete with gracious and kind words from the mouth of God to His children.

Proverbs 25: 11(BBE) A word at the right time is like apples of gold in a network of silver.

We ought to give the more earnest heed to the way we talk to other people. Our words have a very powerful effect on the elements of life and human beings particularly. We need to ask God to help us speak the right words at the right time to people hurting or people going through a tough time. I really don’t know how apples of good will appear on a network of silver, because I’ve never seen one before, but one thing I’m sure of is that, it’s beautiful to behold. When someone fails an exam, that’s not the time to start saying things like “what were you looking at that you failed this much? are you that dumb? Was it not somebody that took the first position or does he have two heads? Is it this simple thing you cannot pass? When I was your age, I was far smarter than this, I was always the first position in my class (I wonder how all our parents ended up as first positions in their class… Something must be wrong somewhere, either the schools back then only had a one-member class system or well… You might have to figure out the other option yourself… hehehe) Etc”. When someone fails, that’s not the time to reiterate everything his mind is already telling him, it’s the time to infuse faith into his faculties and get him believing that that failure was only an event, and not his person. We need more people who will speak kind words to others whether in the church, workplace, market or home. Every heart yearns for that “apple of gold” kind of word.

Eph 4:29(KJV) Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Bible says here that our words should have the capacity to edify, that is build up, encourage, and inspire others. This is exactly what it means to be a person of Grace. Some people actually preach and teach Grace, they know all the Greek and Aramaic of Grace, but when they speak casually (mind you, there are no casual words), they’re full of criticisms and sarcasm as in a sense of superiority. It’s not enough to know the Word of Grace, we ought to live the life of Grace. People ultimately gravitate to places where they feel inspired, encouraged and believed in. Now you may understand why some churches are getting fewer by the day, because the atmosphere is full of condemnation and rejection. This is not to say that we should dilute the truth of the Word in order to please people’s itchy ears, NO!!! God’s Word convicts (leads to sin acknowledgment and genuine repentance), it doesn’t condemn (render and conclude as unusable and without value). We need to examine our words again, do they build up, or do they tear down? Can the Holy Spirit comfort another person through your words? Do you assist the enemy (accuser of the brethren) in his purpose or do you allow the Holy Spirit (Comforter), flow through you via your mouth? Let the Law of Kindness be found in your mouth as you permeate your environment with the fragrance of the Grace of Jesus.

Eph 4:31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:32 And BE YE KIND ONE TO ANOTHER, TENDERHEARTED, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

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Abisola September 28, 2015 - 8:29 am

Wow! I’m inspired. Awesome piece!

Oyeola Oluwasanmi October 2, 2015 - 12:03 pm

“If someone is not certain of your love, your rebuke will
mean nothing to such a person.” yea…right! !!

agbo October 26, 2015 - 5:43 pm

“If someone isn’t certain of your love…” That just hit me head-on!!! Makes so much sense


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